Do you get stressed when you think about potty training ? Is there a difference between potty training girls from boys?
There is a sense of accomplishment when you had potty trained your child, however just a few things to remember : Potty training is not about who does it faster.. sooner or better. A 2 year old or younger kid may be ready for potty training or not ready at all. They say it is faster and easier to potty train a girl than a boy. You have to consider not just your kids readiness BUT yours as well. Why? because it takes consistency , patience and dedication. You may have the right tools for potty training but there is no consistency, you will fail.
There are an abundance of books on different ways on how you can potty train your kid. My only advise on that plethora of information is that you do what fits best for you and your child
UPDATE: SHE IS NOT WEARING PULL UPS at night anymore. A couple of weeks prior to Lily's 3rd birthday, we noticed that her pull ups are dry every morning..for consecutive days. Every morning she wakes up, she goes directly to the bathroom.
This potty training method worked for both of our two girls :
- with Lucy when she was 2 yrs ( she is 4 yrs old now) - NOT a good talker at age 2.
- with Lily at 2 yrs old - a good talker and has good communication skills.
Call of nature -- poop
Oopsies -- accidents , both poo and pee.
Yay -- A successful potty trip
Number 1 - pee pee
Number 2 - poop
We started on a Monday but the day before.. we had our place ready. We have a fabric couch and cleaning it, scrubbing it is one thing that we do not want to deal with.. We covered it with a huge trash bag ( cut in half to make it longer). We then used a blanket on top of the plastic trash bag. A blanket that you really don't care about .We removed the carpet and play mat. Just bare floors. There will be accidents. Lots of them. Easy cleaning is one of the goals too.
We used :
This is to keep her from standing up while she's in the potty chair. It will occupy her mind. This can be books , coloring pages or singing with your toddler. Anything that you already have , you don't have to buy extra "gadgets". Just a variety , if your kids is like ours..they get excited when offered something new. Remember the goal is to potty train them , so reinforcement is okay in my opinion.
4. Stickers and books
Stickers for a reward , for a YAY ( see my not so hot terminology above) and Books. You don't have to buy one either , I'm sure your local library has a lot of books about potty.
We made a basket with : ( this was placed on the bathroom sink)
Stickers -- for rewards
Smart Pad -- or any tablet.. to make her sit down for a little longer in the potty chair.
On the first day..the morning they woke up. I stripped the diaper off , and told them that today..we will say good bye to their diapers. Explaining that they are big girls and big girls wear underpants. I showed them their potty chair , and told them that is where they will go number 1 and 2.
After their morning milk , I set the TIMER at 15 minutes. When the timer goes off , we go to the toilet and I tell them again..this is where we go wee wee. While sitting down , I told them that they will get a reward when they go potty in their potty chair. In our case , my girls love stickers! I make them sit for about a minute or two. You can offer a gadget to make them sit still. Now, don't expect that they will actually "go" right away. If they do not, don't despair. When my girls did "wee-wee" , I made a huge deal of it , I clapped and told her that was very awesome! I gave her a sticker of course.
Now set your timer again for another 15 minutes..Yes..every 15 minutes to start with. You will get a feeling on how often they actually can go..I eventually changed it to every 10 minutes..then every 20 minutes. Always remember CONSISTENCY , DEDICATION AND PATIENCE.
1st day naptime : I did put a diaper on her while she was napping but took it off as soon as she woke up. Why? Honestly because I was already a little tired and don't want to change the bedsheets..eek!
1st day bedtime : I moved her last milk of the day to an earlier time. Instead of 8pm , I gave it with her dinner. Before we tuck them in , we went to the potty to do business. We did use a diaper after that for the night.
Note : Expect a lot of oopsies. "Accidents" on both the pee and poop. You know, our kids have been on diaper for months and we certainly can not expect them to know the drill.
Second day .. I did the same thing. Stripped the diaper off , went to the potty right away. Give the morning milk..then TIMER is utilized again. Only this time..our daughters know the "program" . Every time , the timer goes off..they remind me that it is potty time. A little less accidents. Still...Always remember CONSISTENCY , DEDICATION AND PATIENCE.
2nd day naptime : I still did put a diaper on her while she was napping and took it off as soon as she woke up.
2nd day bedtime : I still moved her last milk of the day to an earlier time. Before going to bed, we went to the potty to do business. We did use a diaper after that for the night.
Note : There are accidents still.. they are less. Even though I still have to remind her or ask her about going to the potty..I just kept at it. She will get it. Consistency. As for the poop part, this time when she did an oopsie, I told her ( with a gesture) that she needs to poo in her potty chair and not her underpants. I reminded her that all through out the day. Yes, I sounded like a broken record but I kept my eye on the prize.
Third day .. Started the same way as the first and second day, She knows what to expect and as soon as I took the diaper off and went to her potty chair..she did wee wee! As with the timer, I stopped using it. I just reminded her..over and over again..to tell mommy if she needs to use the potty. When I was potty training Lucy ( who again at 2 was not a huge talker yet) , even though her words are limited..she can tell me " mama wee..wee" or answer me a yes or no. As with Lily..She tells me..mom i gotta go wee wee"
3rd day naptime : I still did put a diaper on her while she was napping and took it off as soon as she woke up and resume the training :)
3rd day bedtime : She is still drinking her last milk of the day in an earlier time. Before going to bed, we went to the potty to do business. We did use a diaper after that for the night
Note: Since I am already having a cabin fever.. We all braved heading out to take a breather.. I did put on a diaper on her BUT reminded her to tell momma when she needs to go. When would take her to the public restroom.. so she will get use to it. As for the poop, before we headed out..she did a successful "call of nature" -- because I heard her grunting ( sorry baby, had to share)..I used that "grunting moment " as a " teaching moment" .. so off we went to the potty :)
Fourth and Fifth Day ... this is the magical day.. from day 1 where she had 6 accidents and 2 successful wee wee's ( with the call of nature accidents) You will notice how the oopsies declined quite a bit. I logged her OOPSIES and YAYS.. You don't have to do this but I wanted a written account if we are really getting somewhere. Consistency, patience and dedication paid off because not only that she had more successful potty trips. She does tell us when she needs to go. And this was the same with Lucy.
naptimes : I didn't use a diaper this time. Brave me..hah! I did used a thick towel underneath her ..just in case.
bedtime : She is still drinking her last milk of the day in an earlier time. Before going to bed, we went to the potty to do business. We did use a diaper after that for the night.
Sixth and Seventh Day ... by this time Rob and I are totally proud of them. Trust me, consistency is the key. Both of them gained bladder control during the day. They are able to hold more volume of wee wee before feeling the need to release it. By this time she is more aware when she has to go potty.
naptimes : I didn't use a diaper and still use a thick towel underneath her ..just in case.
bedtime : same thing folks, I don't think she will be off the diapers anytime soon.
Note: Even though we still buy a pack of diapers for night time, it still has saved us money! One diaper per day/night as compare to 4-6 diapers a day..what a deal :)
According to a leading pediatrician William Sears M.D., children ages between 18-24 months will first master nighttime bowel control, then daytime bowel control, followed by daytime bladder control. Nighttime bladder control is the last: -- this is why we decided not to push the potty training during the night.