Friday, September 8, 2017

When Teens Give up on Religion

Religion will be one of the most difficult disagreements that you will have with your teens. It is tough, watching your teen reject what you feel is part of the foundation of your family and what has been the guiding light of your own life. Even if we knew the expectations of rebellion: that it is age-appropriate and even necessary for your son or daughter to develop their personality and being, it doesn't hide the fact that their refusal to recognize the faith that you hold dear hurts you and your relationship.



About the writer:

M Pimentel 

M is a happily married Filipino mother to three wonderful little daughters, ages: 8 years, 5 years, and 4 months old. Her daily life is a struggle between being the Executive Content Director for Project Female and deciding who gets to watch television next. She specializes in creating and editing content for female empowerment, parenting, beauty, health/nutrition, and lifestyle. As the daughter of two very hardworking people, she was brought up with strict traditional Asian values and yet embraces modern trends like Facebook, vegan cupcakes, and the occasional singing.



Is it your fault?

     As a parent, your first instinct is likely to blame yourself. You wonder if perhaps it was your fault that your child has strayed from the path of religion. Should you have prayed more, had taken them to church often, had conversations on faith. Did you fell short on making observed tradition meaningful, or even fun? Or was it a failure on pressing the significance of your believed sacred practices.

     A research conducted by the National Study of Youth and Religion showed teens raised by parents who practiced what they preached and were active in their spiritual community were more likely to retain their religiosity as far as early adulthood. You have done everything you possibly could in this regard, so shouldn’t the apple not fall far from the tree?
YOU have done everything you possibly could-- that is what you need to remember. Truthfully, your teenager will grow up to be his own. At this stage, they are learning to take charge and wants freedom.

Is it their fault?

Demanding school and extracurricular activities would leave less time for church and fellowship. A lengthy service won’t likely keep their attention whose mind is divided in many directions. The truth is, teens nowadays are juggling so many priorities deemed essential for success in their adult life. There’s a lot things on their plate, and if they don’t view nurturing the soul as beneficial as nourishing the mind and body, chances are religious activities are not going to make the top of the list.
Parents need to set an example and live the way we want our teenagers to grow up to be. Religion will lose luster, if we fail to foster their relationship with God. If we fail to teach them the role of Jesus Christ in our lives, we then fail to show them what faith, grace and His unconditional love are about.

     The youth group is an excellent way to get them involved. Active, fun and engaging with the right age group will be essential. Youth group can provide mentorship. It will teach them what real serving is, which is serving with purpose. Real serving is to serve the Lord and the community.

Is it society’s fault?

     Media is sensationalized. Technology is not a great help either. It is sometimes difficult to express your faith because it is not perceived "cool" in their age group. Clashing ideologies confuse teens who need guidance and prayers.  On a daily basis, teenagers are also exposed to social issues such as discrimination. For instance, the LGBT community. They often see church members on the front lines of judging. It is hard to show them what church is all about because we fail to live what was taught in the Bible.

     Six out of ten youth believe that religion has a negative impact on the world. It confuses the teens on the truth of a loving God when the message they get is that God condemns. That God punishes when you sin.



     In this world of warring opinions that you and your teen both live in, it’s important to encourage open dialogue. Ali ibn Abi Talib, an Arab philosopher, said, “Do not raise your children the way your parents raised you, they were born for a different time.”

     Your teen will face a different set of struggles and ideals. We just can not use the excuse of how we were raised. Although you have raised them according to your beliefs and they have abided by your views for much of their young life, now is the time to intentionally listen to them as they figure out their own beliefs towards the world they will navigate. We need to have an open heart and mind.

Maybe it’s nobody’s fault?

     Anatomically, adolescence is a time when the area of the brain called the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for self-control and judgment, is rapidly developing. As the mind becomes capable of more abstract thinking, adolescents flex their newly-minted mental muscles by picking apart established concepts and rules—read: teenage rebellion.

     It may be a bit of a leap, going from having an obedient school-age kid who does as you say because it's their developmental task to follow orders and please their elders, to a belligerent teenager whose brain needs this time to explore the limits of their control and develop their judgment skills.
We need to be more purposeful and intentional. Teenagers need our guidance. Give unconditional love, even if they are in their most unloving stage and yet hold them accountable.


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What can you do now?
     As adults, we continually reevaluate our core beliefs, this is also true for the teen years. They will constantly look for a basis for what they should stand and believe. Teens will test their boundaries. They are known to be naive and impulsive. It is imperative to respect their individuality and opinion while setting limits. We need to be able to listen and respect their views on religion and offer Bible based wisdom.

     This stage will not last but a crucial stage that needs our patience. Strive to be a good role model and always be open for non-judgmental conversation. Encourage your teen to meet other people—sometimes what they need is to hear your beliefs reframed in someone else’s voice or perspective.
Refrain from nagging; it will just cause harm and hurt your relationship. Go for building a strong relationship, and that will illuminate in all aspects of their lives.

     Keep prayer as a priority. Be praying for their heart and guidance. We can't do this on our own. In times of disagreements, be respectful. Sometimes, all we need is to agree to disagree. We also need to focus on leading them to a relationship with the Lord and not focusing on the religion. The focal point of what we should aim for them is to win their hearts through life in Christ. Do not be so centered on traditions and rituals that we lose sight of what is important- to lead them to Christ.


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References:
Pew Research
Telegraph
Raw Story
Huffington Post
Kars4Kids
Greg Steirs Dare2share

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Thursday, September 7, 2017

Bloggers Spotlight Link Party # 80


Welcome to the Bloggers Spotlight Link Party # 80

Thank you  for making the last party successful and wonderful! We enjoyed stopping by and learning new things. If you are new here, welcome and we are glad to have you. If not, welcome back!  There's a few and awesome changes on our linky party, first we are opening up our BLOGGERS SPOTLIGHT LINK PARTY for everyone, so you all can pin your great posts! Second, we simplified our rules ..everybody loves simple right?

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Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Healthy Living Link Party #129


Welcome to the Healthy Living Link Party #129


Join our HEALTHY LIVING LINK PARTY PINTEREST BOARD .Collaborate with us and we would love for you to pin with us. Pin your healthy living related post , recipes, giveaways, reviews and more! If you like to join our collaborative board,  you can email me at abountifullove (at)gmail (dot)com or comment below! 
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Thursday, August 31, 2017

Bloggers Spotlight Link Party # 79

Welcome to the Bloggers Spotlight Link Party # 79

Thank you  for making the last party successful and wonderful! We enjoyed stopping by and learning new things. If you are new here, welcome and we are glad to have you. If not, welcome back!  There's a few and awesome changes on our linky party, first we are opening up our BLOGGERS SPOTLIGHT LINK PARTY for everyone, so you all can pin your great posts! Second, we simplified our rules ..everybody loves simple right?

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Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Healthy Living Link Party #128


Welcome to the Healthy Living Link Party #128


Join our HEALTHY LIVING LINK PARTY PINTEREST BOARD .Collaborate with us and we would love for you to pin with us. Pin your healthy living related post , recipes, giveaways, reviews and more! If you like to join our collaborative board,  you can email me at abountifullove (at)gmail (dot)com or comment below! 
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    Tuesday, August 29, 2017

    Top 10 Keepsakes to Make for Your Children





    1. Letters to my daughter(s) / son notebook

    Purchase a journal notebook and write letters to your children. Topics can range from how your day went , the happiness they bring you, their silliness and your struggles. It can also be a letter for when they feel : sad, unloved, unworthy, fear , worry. Your letters will serve your children someday for when they have their own family.

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    2. Handprint salt dough

    Who does not find a baby hand print adorable? Make this easy and affordable salt dough. I made several of them already. Do not forget to write the date and their ages!

    DIY handprint

    3. Baby clothes stuff toy

    I have at least three baby footie pajamas of both of our girls that I love. When I see them, I vividly remember my babies wearing them. Since moms are known for hoarding baby clothes ( trust me, the struggle is real), why not make a stuffed toy out of it.

    via POPSUGAR
    4.Onesies or favorite shirt blanket

     Aside from the footie pajamas hoarding that we, mamas have... I am one to admit that I do have a onesie hoarding problem too. Let's transform the cute onesies into a blanket. I stumbled upon this cute blanket on Pinterest.


    http://cherishingcharlotte.blogspot.ca/2012/03/very-special-blanket.html
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    5.Pictures of their first day of school binder

    Do you take pictures of your kid's firsts day of school? I certainly do. I recently started taking last day of school photos too. I love making a side by side comparison of our kid's photos to see how much they have grown. All you need to have is a good size binder, some sheet protectors and creativity. Compile those photos and give it to them on their graduation day.

    Here's our little bug, she is finally in Kindergarten. 


    Here's the big sister last school year 


    6.Memory box

    Hospital memories...the good, bad and ugly. The good, welcoming our bundle of joy. The bad and the ugly...are the labor pains and if you had a Csection like me..the recovery. Whatever labor experience we all had, I'm a hundred percent sure that nothing will top your joy as seeing your baby.  Keep the hospital keepsakes, ultrasound pictures and coming home outfits in one super cute way! Make a memory box.

    http://www.abountifullove.com/2014/02/diy-baby-memory-frame-box.html

    7. Smash penny collection

    This is my husband's influence. When we were dating, he looks for a smash peeny machine. We actually have a pretty good collection by now. Everywhere we go for fun and a vacation, we do not hunt for a magnet store as a keepsake for our fun memory. We hunt for a small penny machine!

    8. Family ornament

    Ornament....another obsession of ours. You can be creative on making a Christmas ornament. You can make memories by decorating ornaments with your kids, or a Christmas ball with their handprint on them. You can also keep their letters to Santa. When they grow old and have their own family, you can pass it on. It will be so much fun when it is their turn to show the ornaments they made when they were young to their own kids.

    9.Love notes Binder

    Our girls love to write us notes and draw pictures. My husband has a hefty collection of drawings and love notes from our kids. Save those sweet notes and awesome arts ( repeat after me..select few awesome arts only).

    10. Recipe Binder

    When my husband and I got married, he shared the ham and bean recipe that his grandma used to make. I took it upon myself to make this into a tradition. We serve the ham , Christmas Eve and we cook ham and bean soup the next day for Christmas day. I want to keep this tradition with our girls and save some recipes that they love. I am Filipino and I want our girls to learn how to cook Filipino foods.

    This recipe binder is perfect for that.  I love that you can write the recipes which gives the binder a personal touch. It has plenty of pockets for the recipes that you want to pass on to your children and sturdy, durable tab dividers.



    I also love the fact that it is refillable!! You can never have too much recipes.

    You can pass this recipe binder on for when they get married or for when they move for college. But don't wait until then, start making it now! 


    You can purchase the RECIPE BINDER HERE.

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    Monday, August 28, 2017

    Faith: Free Printables and DVD Giveaway

    What exactly does faith means to you? Faith defined by Oxford Dictionary :


    Booming technology and the rise of scholars, paved a way for a lot of research and archeological investigation. There is always a debate regrading the validity of the Bible. People are fascinated in knowing the history and validity of everything. It is  human nature to always look for a basis and a framework for our beliefs. As a Christian , should our faith in the Lord suppress the knowledge and learning that we can acquire with the archeological findings? Definitely not!

    Faith should not stifle with the any research and impede a scientific investigation. But, it should be the ground for an honest learning. Our pursuit for learning and research should be a means to an end of promoting good in the society. Faith should be the framework for seeking an understanding (GCU, n.d.)


    I was able to review the first DVD of Patterns of Evidence, you can read my review HERE.

         The foundation of the Bible, Exodus in this case is always a myth for some. There is always a debate and discussion circulating if the Exodus really happened.  Most scholars, researchers and well known archeologist settled and concluded on the statement that there is no evidence. Just like any normal person would feel, film maker Tim Mahoney had a crisis of faith. This DVD is the result of his 12 year journey in his quest for finding out the foundation of the Exodus. Patterns of Evidence did a great job on delivering overwhelming archeological findings. The film is not biased and puts focus on finding the truth. Tim Mahoney, presented interviews from scholars and famous archeologists.

    "Patterns of Evidence: The Exodus unlocks the mystery of this ancient saga, combining a scientific investigation with a retelling of the Exodus story to reveal an amazing pattern of evidence matching the biblical account that may challenge our understanding of history" (patternsofevidence.com).

    About the author/filmmaker/producer:



     Tim Mahoney founded Mahoney Media Group, Inc. (MMG) in 1989. MMG focused its business on television and video production for regional and national companies. In 2014 Tim founded Thinking Man Films & Media as an international documentary & publishing company with a focus on education and the Bible. Tim produced numerous productions for Christian organizations including the Billy Graham Association, World Wide Pictures, and Compassion International. Tim also served as the President of the board for the International Christian Visual Media Association (ICVM). Tim’s first full feature documentary film, “PATTERNS OF EVIDENCE: THE EXODUS”, released in January 2015. The film took 12 years to develop and takes a scientific approach to investigate the events of the biblical Exodus. The overall vision for his film company is to explore “patterns of evidence” that support the biblical narrative and engages the world in a conversation. The film takes a balanced approach and leaves the audience to decide for themselves if the Bible is real history or myth.

    About the film



     • Won 13 awards on the film festival circuit in 2014, including a Gold Remi Award winner for Best Director at the Worldfest Houston Intl. Film Festival, the Gold Crown Award for Best Picture and Best Documentary at ICVM 2014, and Official Selection at the Soho International Film Festival in New York.
     • Supplemental resources associated with the film include a nearly 400-page hardcover book, small group Bible study, Movie Event kit, youth version (called Young Explorers), homeschool curriculum and others
    . • It includes powerful interviews with some of the top experts in the fields of archaeology and Egyptology as well as people of influence in the Middle East.
    • The film has an objective, fair-minded and balanced approach. It allows viewpoints from all sides to be heard in a respectful way while asking honest questions of the Bible and scholars’ views. It does not preach and lets the evidence speak for itself. This allows the film to be very shareable with those of different viewpoints.
    Now onto the GIVEAWAY


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