Friday, May 30, 2014

How to Deal with Fair Weather Friends


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Let us first define  fair weather friends  ...



We all have encountered them at one point in our lives right? They can also be family and relatives. It is very easy to get mad and choose the path of closing your doors.  I think there are two types of fair weather friends / people:
  • there are people who shows up when it is convenient for them then bail out at the sign of trouble ( see meaning above) , and 
  • there are people that will do everything to help you out to a point of over exerting  themselves but when time comes that they are the ones who need the help-- they refuse your help. They hide and they don't let you help them

When I was single ( and crazy).. I am very quick to open my wallet, lets just say money and eating out with the friends I love is not an issue. . Well it became an issue when I got married and  have kids. I slowly noticed the disappearing act. As any people with family would know.. as soon as you get married. Everything changes.. there are no yours or mine.. and all of your priorities will change. In fairness to my friends, I did change too. I was no longer willing to pay  the tab all the time. I don't do "special request" , as much as I want to anymore. . I became a stay at home mom and  my family will ALWAYS COME FIRST.

Did I get upset and got hurt with people who remembers me when circumstances are profitable? Yes. Did I blame myself that they acted the way they did for a long time was because of my own doing? Sure. I let it happened. Did I regret it? No. I learned and value real friendships now. Meaningful ones.

These may not work for everybody. It did worked for me.. 

1. Pray for them. Its hard I know.. to pray for someone who remembers you on good times only. Now let me ask you this? Have you ever thought on  how we only sometimes pray when we really..really need something from God. Because He is good and loves us unconditionally. We are not perfect and that is why we need to pray.   Pray for them that they may experience God's grace when their difficult times arises. Pray for their blessings too. Prayer is the most important gift you can ever bless a friend with. Pray for guidance and wisdom too.

" A friend is one who strengthens you with prayers, blesses you with love and encourages you with hope." --  Quote Source

2. You have a choice. If you choose to close your doors , if you choose to distance yourself .that is totally up to you. At the end of the day, you get to decide on what makes you happy and on how you want to be treated. If you choose to surround yourself with the people who loves you at your best and more so at your worst..You have all the right. Nobody likes a one way relationship anyway.


3. Think happy , that you are their sunshine when all they have is a rain cloud. 

4. Define and Set your limits. When trying to loose weight, you set a goal and set limits. A successful weight loss involves the absence of deprivation. When you feel deprive , it is a recipe for a drawback in my opinion. It is like ..I'm on a low carb diet but I do love breads..but my goal is to loose weight.. so I will limit my bread in take in a day.  You should know when and what is "enough". If it weighs you down and does more "emotional withdrawals" than investing on your relationship..( refer to #2)

5.Do not let it change who you are.  If you are a truly giving and thoughtful person, don't let those fair weather friends rob you off of future friendship. Life is really good ..you will meet and will encounter a whole  lot of  good people. .and meet new friends.

6. As for the type 2 fair weather people ( see my two types above) , refer to number 1. .Pray for them. They are who they are..When you want to help them in return of them being helpful to you when you needed them, and when they refuse to accept your  help..as frustrating as it can be. Just give them space and time. Sometimes, it is all they need too. Maybe they will come around..maybe not. Pray..it is a precious gift you can bless them with.


"Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers."
- Proverbs 18:24 


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Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Baked Cheesy Mexican Chicken


This my friends is a very simple ( and I like simple) , tasty, delicious food!  You can serve it with Mexican Rice or with corn tortilla. It is so good and I'm sure you will add it to you "keeper recipe" list. Stock up on chicken breast when they go on sale to make it a budget friendly meal. You can also whip up this tasty Homemade Flour Tortilla



Ingredients:

1 lb chicken breast
1 tsp. HOMEMADE TACO SEASONING
1/2 cup mild enchilada sauce
4 oz Shredded cheddar cheese or mexican cheese
1 tbsp. chopped green onions
1 tsp olive oil
 salt and pepper to taste

Directions:

Pre heat oven to 350

Sprinkle taco seasoning on both sides of the chicken breast.


 Heat olive oil in a skillet, fry/saute the chicken breast,


 Diced up chicken and placed it in a greased glass baking dish.
Season with salt and pepper


 Pour the enchilada sauce and mix it until all the chicken are all coated.


Sprinkle the cheese on top of the chicken.

Bake for 350 for 15-20 minutes , until the cheese melts..and you start to drool because it smells sooo good!


Sprinkle green onions on top.



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Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Letter of the Week : Hh

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BOOKS TO READ

 To save money , local library is a good option. You can also use whatever books you may have in your home library to supplement with the lesson.

From the library ...
  • Howdi Do by Woodie Guthrie
 From our book shelves..




 We always start by saying the letter out loud. Teaching her the phonetic sound of the letter. Next is the line tracing and letter tracing of both  upper case and lower case letter H)

You can download this free letter Hh tracing sheets here : ( free at First-school.com)




 

We did a Letter H collage using foam sticker hearts.
 The peeling and sticking is good for enhancing fine motor skills.

You can print the alphabet letters here for collage : A- Zworksheets via COAH . Don't limit yourself with stickers.  You can also use heart or happy faces stamps or paint it with dot sponges.


Even our 2 yr old enjoyed it too!

 

We reviewed colors too, using pom poms, a muffin tin that we recycled ( We spray painted it pink) and kitchen tongs. I asked her to pick up the pom poms using the kitchen tong and she needs to put each of them on each muffin tin that corresponds to the written color. This is an excellent way to practice fine motor skills and patience..




We practiced our Letter H  without the guided tracing dots, and did a FIND THE BIG LETTER H and THE SMALL LETTER h activity. You can make this activity using a Microsoft word. Download the HAT activity here : Hat Printables for Dr. Seuss



We read this Letter H Alphabet Lap book . Download it for free here : Homeschoolshare.com


More coloring and Do a dot activity.

Print them for free here:

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